Why men shouldn’t take dating advice from women
Black Coffee explains why taking dating advice from women can be fatal to your dating life.
I already know what you’re thinking…” But they’re women! They must understand what other women want!”
Nope, not necessarily.
If you want dating advice, take it from a man who is successful with women.
I’m not saying that you shouldn’t get a woman’s perspective on your dating life. But, take what they say with a pinch of salt.
And this isn’t because female there's some female conspiracy, but more because one their insight comes from a place of compassion and two because what women say they want and what they actually want are two different things.
Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule.
But it's not the norm. Let me explain why.
There are a lot of women who feel shame about opening up about their true sexual desires and have been told by their parents, friends, religion, and society that a woman who desires sex is wrong and that
being too sexual early on is being a slut.
So, they unintentionally project that shame onto others. They advise guys to treat a girl like a proper “lady”, even though that’s not what actually turns them on.
It’s not easy for women to admit that the guy on Tinder with his top off and the six-pack turns them on, or the arrogant guy who does and says what he wants gets them excited.
And it can be especially uncomfortable for them to admit that they want a man who is dominating in the bedroom.
So, instead, they give men advice on how they want to be treated by someone they’re in a relationship with, rather than what initially attracted them to that man.
Instead of saying be more confident, bold and assertive they say be caring, romantic and thoughtful, which are things they want from a bold assertive confident guy as this type of man originally attracted them.
To put it another way, being confident, bold and assertive is what gets them, being caring and romantic is what keeps them.