Why do men struggle with dating apps?

Black Coffee explains why the majority of men are frustrated by dating apps.

Black Coffee
3 min readOct 9, 2021

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The reason so many men have problems with dating apps is that they're not being honest with themselves.

If they were, they would admit that they use dating apps because they're too afraid to approach women in real life.

Dating apps were created because of this fear. If men weren't afraid to approach women, there wouldn't be as many dating apps as there are.

Every new dating app. It is just another way for men to do more of what didn't work in the first place.

Men, be honest.

If you weren't afraid to approach women, would you be on a dating app?

Whenever I ask men why they use dating apps. The answer I hear the most is that it saves time because they don't have to dress up and go to a party bar or club.

The men who say this are the men who fail to get positive results because in truth the only way for a man to get positive results on dating apps is if he invests both time and money.

The men with the best results on dating apps are the men who take professional pictures, as men who post selfies get fewer swipes.

Also, men who have witty openers as women rarely if ever reply to “hi”, so men have to think of witty things without knowing for sure if they'll get a reply. Both of which take time and money.

I don't know why men do it to themselves. Instead of taking rejection and moving on, they hide behind dating apps.

Most of the gripes I hear from millennial men about women were caused by dating apps. Swiping for hours and not getting a match can never be good.

A lot of young men think women only like men who are over 6 feet tall. I'm 5"6 and have never had a problem getting women in real life, yet guys are having problems because tall women aren't the most sought after women, so they go on dating apps and only want men taller than themselves.

Men read women's profiles
intently or look at their pictures if they haven't written anything in their profile and then write something witty, and they rarely get a reply

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