When a woman goes cold and becomes distant

Black coffee explains what to do when a woman pulls back

Black Coffee
3 min readSep 5, 2023
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We've all been there. You've just spent a weekend with your girl, and she was a bit cold and distant and now you haven't heard from her for a few days when she usually texts you straight after the date.

You start to wonder what’s going on? Have I done something wrong? Does she want to break up with me? Should I reach out and message her?

Wait, right there buddy.


Now celebrate and use that time to catch up on your job, your friends, your family, that book you've been meaning to read or that extra workout. Basically, being productive and enjoying some time without her.

If a woman not messaging you for a few days to a week, breaks you down, you need to step away and find things that make you happy besides being with her because you may have more invested in the relationship than her.

If you’re honest with yourself. The reason you want to message her is that you’re feeling a little insecure and want to know where you stand with her, but the problem is trying to get this feeling of certainty can be a relationship turn off for women.

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