The one thing most men don’t understand about women

Black Coffee breaks down the one thing women wished men would instinctively know.

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There appears to be a huge divide among men and women these days, with many men complaining about modern women and passport bros flexing their little muscles and a lot of these issues could be solved if men know one thing and that is…..

Women want to feel safe and above all else and seek security, and this can only be achieved by a man being a leader and taking charge.

Hey macho man.. This isn’t the 70s. I hear you say.

I know you've heard women don't want to be led. Don't believe none of it. Women would like to be led, even if they don't know they do.

Numerous men have been conditioned not to lead women as it’s seen as being controlling or because they never saw it in the household.

Ask these men how things are in the household, or better yet how their sex life is. Their answer will tell you everything. Most will tell you they haven’t had sex in months.

A man being a leader in a relationship isn’t the same as being macho, manipulative, selfish, or abusive.

It's not about making every decision or having everything go your way. Rather, it is about you deciding what you want and inviting a woman to join you.

The way a man does this is to always treat a woman with integrity and respect.

When a man leads. A woman has a choice to follow or not as she's not being forced to do anything, she would rather not do, but when a man doesn't lead, a woman feels she has to and that can be a burden on her.

This is what happens in many modern relationships, when the man isn’t leading, the woman doesn’t feel safe and secure and what happens is, women, above all, lose sexual interest because they’ve lost trust in the man.

This barren spell is enough to alert the man problem, but he doesn’t know what. He should there be a problem, he’s doing everything she asks.

The problem is, is if she can’t trust the man in her life, she is forced to take charge by default, which she really doesn’t want to do, and now she’s in charge…