The Art of Rejection

Why Men Should Keep Approaching Women

Black Coffee
3 min read5 days ago
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Let’s be honest: the rules of dating today are…weird. Somewhere along the way, society started labeling men approaching women as creepy.

Yet, swiping right on a carefully curated photo? Perfectly normal. Makes sense, right? Spoiler alert: it doesn’t.

The real problem isn’t the approach—it’s what happens after. Rejection. That sharp "no" or subtle "I’m not interested."

Society hasn’t equipped boys to handle it well. Instead of encouraging them to embrace rejection, we’ve turned dating into a sanitized, app-centric maze where authenticity takes a backseat.

Let’s flip the script and talk about why we need to reframe rejection as something positive—and why both men and women should feel empowered to make the first move.

Let’s Normalize the Approach (No, It’s Not Creepy!)

Here’s the deal: seeing someone you’re attracted to and wanting to talk to them isn’t creepy—it’s human.

People aren’t barcodes you scan for compatibility. There’s a charm in walking up to someone and starting a conversation. You’re taking a risk, sure, but isn’t that what makes it meaningful?

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