Afraid of approaching women?

This is men’s ultimate guide to overcoming their fear of rejection

Black Coffee
4 min readAug 10


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We live in a society where men are becoming more and more afraid of approaching women because of the messages they have been bombarded with in the media by both men and women.

The modern man seems to have given up on approaching women as they feel a woman will think they're sleazy or because they would rather not get a hard rejection, and instead have decided to fall back on dating apps.

Unfortunately, the way dating apps are set up and the fact that men outnumber women by a considerable margin, many are being left disappointed and, in some cases, bitter at women.

You already know how I feel about dating apps.

If this sounds like you, then I have the ultimate guide to overcoming your fear of rejection.

First, what you have you to do is change the way you see rejection.

She's not rejecting you

When you approach a woman, and she turns you down. She's not turning YOU down, she's turning down your offer. She doesn't want to go on a date with you to the bar, that's her rejecting your offer. Not YOU.

Read that again and let it sink in.

When a woman turns down your offer, it could be one of many reasons, with none of them having anything to do anything with how you look, how you're dressed or your personality.

A woman could reject your offer because she's in a rush to work, she's stressed at that moment, or she has a boyfriend. All of these things have nothing to do with you, yet your ego makes you think that it does, and that's what you need to change.

You’ve dodged a bullet

The whole point of approaching a woman is because you find her attractive.

If you approach her, and she is rude and has an attitude, that once again may have nothing to do with you and everything to do with her, people who love themselves aren't unnecessarily rude to people, so change the way you see the rejection to positive because now you know that she may look beautiful, but she has an attitude problem.

Ask yourself this, do you really…